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About me
XJR goes Asia

Current status: back home

22 years old
The Netherlands
VU University Amsterdam
Business Administration

Speaks dutch, english, wenzhounese and bit mandarin, japanese and german.

Jan-Aug '09 in China, Japan, Korea

<3 dancing


Music
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Thoughts
on my mind

Expectations
Here i am
Reflection
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Blogs
follow my dears

Xiuf - Aja Aja Geeking!
Kayan - Through my mind
Hanna - Starting over in USA
Charmaine - Top of the world
Bunny - Spotlight on me


Archive
Looking back at the past

October 2008
November 2008
December 2008
January 2009
February 2009
March 2009
April 2009
May 2009
August 2009
January 2010
August 2010


Quotes
say what?

"Silence is the true friend that never betrays"

"Sometimes I wish I could just pack my bags and leave this chaotic and tiring place"

“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”

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Friday, October 10, 2008
Expectations

While sitting in the train listening to music and staring out of the window, which has become a routine, this time I heard people in front of me talking about other people's life. They mentioned some family who seems to be 'perfect' but in reality is falling apart. Talking about how they never expected this to happen, 'that girl seemed so wise' they say. It made me disappointed..not for the family being imperfect, but the expectations that people have about everyone around them. We all have some expectations to live up to, whether it is from your family, friends, colleagues and everyone else involved in your life. 'Be the best in everything you do'. It makes you and them disappointed when you can't life up to it. You try so hard, so hard to change yourself..but in the end you're losing a piece of yourself. Never being satisfied with the things you do, always trying to do better. At least I do.. We can't change who we are and we need to accept this..Yet the world seems to always lay this pressure on us. If we could just all accept the flaws human beings have and let us be ourselves instead of changing us. If we just could be happy and satisfied in what we do...It's easier said than done, I know. This world has made it almost impossible to not care about other people's opinion. Growing up with the meaning of being independent, yet we need to rely on others so much. Still there is that little possibility that we can. And so with that in my mind, I try everyday.

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